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In this transparent, compelling memoir, a young, highly-successful black man reflects on the life he built for himself over the years, only to reach the middle of his life and realize it wasn’t a life he wanted. All his life, he’d followed the rules, excelled at all he touched, made historical strides in school and career, and gave every bit of himself to please others and be seen as “perfect.” It was a pressure-filled life that left little room for error or enjoyment. He succeeded in manufacturing a you-niverse, of which him being perfect was the center. In his mind, everything revolved around him being perfect, and without him being seen as perfect, the world would fall apart.


Carrying the weight of this responsibility on his shoulders was something he did with pride – that is, until he finally began to crumble under the weight of it. After a lifetime of painstakingly building his you-niverse, it seemingly imploded in an instant, forcing him into a period of profound self-reflection and a critical re-evaluation of what mattered most in life. 


Written specifically as a letter to his own son and universally to every young person and aspiring leader, this memoir is a compilation of thoughts, lessons, entertaining stories, cautionary tales, and warnings about how to build a life centered on passion, purpose, and authenticity – a you-niverse to relish rather than one to regret.


Deliberate Excellence

Leadership isn’t just a title
Be inspired by a passion for progress and the drive to maximize latent potential in all people. Learn along from Dallas Dance as he shares the successful change efforts he employed to transform Baltimore Public Schools. This true success story delivers great insight and inspiration. Readers will be moved and changed by the author’s three key success principles:


  • Establishing equity over equality by providing exactly what individuals need to be successful
  • Understanding change, how it happens, and what one needs to make it so
  • Knowing people deeply and how that leads to accomplishment and organizational change


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    As a speaker and author, my focus is to train emerging and seasoned leaders to align strategy with equity, change and communication.

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